You are going to Die

Welcome to the 1st Episode of Death Phobic.  This is the basis of every episode moving forward.  You are going to die and until you realize this and except it as reality I cant help you.  Thanks for listening!

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Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:02

You are going to die. I've stood beside thousands of families over my 35 years as a funeral director and watched what happens when people pretend that sentence isn't true. Today, in the very first episode of Death Phobic, we're not going to shy away from it. We're going to look it straight in the eye. Because doing so just might be the most freeing thing you ever do. Hello everyone, and welcome to episode one of Death Phobic. I am your host, Paul Moss. I've been a funeral director for approximately 35 years, helping families navigate loss here in the Sunshine State. This podcast exists to educate you on the real, life-changing benefits of planning for your death. The parts that go far beyond deciding who gets your stuff. Along the way, in future episodes, I will touch on many topics, including pre-planning, educating you on our industry. You'll learn what to expect when someone you love passes away, and the benefits of having the conversation with family members and loved ones. But before we dive into that, um, we'll start here. The simple, undeniable fact that you're going to die. And that's what we're going to talk about a little bit today. So the question is, why would I want to, why would you want to face the fact that you're going to die? Many moons ago I watched a movie called What About Bob? You may know it, if you're old enough. And I won't bore you with the plot. However, there is a scene that sticks with me until this very day, and it makes me chuckle every once in a while. There is a kid in the movie that comes to the realization that he is going to die. And proceeds to go down a rabbit hole of exponential dread, saying, I am going to die. And he says that over and over again. I am going to die. He comes to that realization. The scene ends with him saying, I am going to die. What else is there to be afraid of? The writer made the viewers face a harsh fear. We as humans certainly do not like to think about our own mortality, much less talk about it. And that, my friends, makes us death phobic. Avoiding the thought of death doesn't protect anyone. It usually just adds to confusion, regret, and a heavier burden later when you pass away. And your family has absolutely no idea what you what your wishes were for the disposition of your remains, what you saw your services being, things of that nature, and we'll get into that later. But also facing it can bring perspective, bring gratitude, and a surprising sense of peace. So what does you are going to die really mean? I belonged to a networking group one time where each member had the opportunity to give a brief verbal ad or elevator pitch, if you will, of their business, and it was each meeting. And we had a tax attorney, and he would get up, and his tagline was and you've probably heard this many times before, the only sure thing in life is death and taxes.

SPEAKER_00 4:09

Many people have. Let me know how evading death works out. Might be able to prolong your life, but you certainly will never evade the ultimate demise.

SPEAKER_01 4:27

Still not convinced? Okay, so let's look at some statistics. Right? Um, globally, a hundred and seventy-two thousand eight hundred and twenty per day. That's a hundred and seventy-two thousand eight hundred and twenty-four people die per day. 24 hours. That equates to 7,021 per hour, 120 per minute, two per second. So in the time that it takes you to listen to this podcast, approximately 3,500 people have passed away. And what I've seen is that most people act as if death is for other people. Like it's far away in the future. We don't have to think about it until the day comes. The illusion of someday. I've heard the words, I thought we had more time, way too often throughout career. And one would think, since I'm in the industry, that I have this different perspective on life, and I live every day to the fullest, uh, it's not so, guys. I'm I'm I'm human just like you. And there will always be time, right? I can assure you this is not the case. You are going to die. And pretending otherwise doesn't change that fact. But again, facing it can bring clarity, it can bring gratitude, it can bring freedom. And don't get me wrong, I am not a morbid person, and I'm not trying to be morbid with you. And I I personally don't feel this is a morbid conversation. But it's well, how I see it is it's the ultimate reminder to live well while you still can. In my 35 years, the people who have made peace with this troop, they just carry themselves differently, um, with more intent, um, and way less regret. It's interesting. I I read something recently, and um it was from a hospice nurse, and they got the opportunity to ask people that were in hospice, of course, and uh they were on their deathbed and what their biggest regrets were. I'm gonna share that with you in a future episode. There's a lot of interesting things that people said they they regret.

SPEAKER_00 7:19

I for one do not want to die with regret. But the simple fact is that you are going to die. And pretending otherwise does not change that fact. Again, facing it can bring clarity, gratitude, freedom.

SPEAKER_01 7:43

And this, my friend, is the foundation of all future episodes. If you cannot come to the realization that you are going to die, that we are born to die, as a matter of fact, as soon as we start, as soon as we're born, our bodies begin to die.

SPEAKER_00 8:09

Then please don't listen to the rest of the episodes uh because it won't really do anything for us. If today's conversation stirred something in you, well, that's the point.

SPEAKER_01 8:24

That's what I would like it to do. In future episodes, we will build on this foundation and talk about the practical benefits of planning ahead, how it lightens the load on your family, obviously. It honors your wishes, it brings peace of mind, and even helps you live better in the present. So I guess my call to action to you today is please subscribe. Um please follow this show so you don't miss what's coming next. And if this episode landed with you, uh please leave a rating and review.

SPEAKER_00 9:08

Tell people how you feel about it.

SPEAKER_01 9:12

It helps my new show uh reach more people who definitely need to hear this, and there are a lot. Share it with somebody you care about, perhaps that dad out there or that husband out there that never wants to have the conversation.

SPEAKER_00 9:30

And start small.

SPEAKER_01 9:33

So my plea to you is this week and the coming weeks, maybe even when you're listening to this, set with the idea that you are going to die. Notice what shifts. I'd be interested to know. And I'd love to hear about how that truth hits you. And you can reach out to me on Instagram. Um, my handle there is uh at death underscore phobic.

SPEAKER_00 10:03

And a few other channels that I'm um that I have. You are going to die. But you are alive right now, and you can make it count.

SPEAKER_01 10:21

So thanks for joining me on this very first episode of Deathphobic. I am Paul Moss. I'll see you on the next one where we start turning this awareness into real preparation.

SPEAKER_00 10:36

Be good, be well, and bye for now.